Its hard....its manageable...but some cant accept it..so is it worth it?

Hello to everyone....esp to LondonGal....hope you are doing fine!...Sorry for the non post lately , have been rather busy. Oh yes our spa outing was great!...have to do it more often.

As with TrueBlue, I started having guy friends since after secondary school and would have to say that it definitely is different from having a girl-girl friendship. Different but not necessarily less rewarding or fun!
And the perspective you get is actually beneficial in the search for the Mr Right at that point of time. However, friendship with guys at that point (single) had at least a liltle or a minimal underlying 'current', (doono what else to call it) as the possibility the friendship might turn into something more is definitely OUT THERE..

Agreed that when you are no longer single, friendship with other men....its a bit different than the one you have when you are unattached. But this is generally speaking. For some its relatively the same. In my case, I have 2/3 really good guy friends that havecontinued till today the same way as when i was single...chats on the phone, emails and outings in a group. The only difference is the frequency. In this case, the guy friends ae also close friends with my partner, hence he is very supportive of it. Sometimes passing the phone to me to chat when they call simply because I am better at it!. SO in this case, I truly value the friendhip with them and hope it would be foreva (haha), I'm not saying that there is no risk to it, but I feel its very small and I am willing to take it than just stop the friendship for fear of the tiny risk. As long as both parties know how to behave and are decent...I dont see any problem! They, however have no partner as yet, and I do hope when they do, their partner will be as supportive as mine is.

Anyway....you cant just dump a friendship if your status changes...I mean that would seem to be rather tak baik la...and also you may be coined as being a fair wheather or specific weather friend. Everyone needs a friens of all seasons right??

Having said all that, I do experience this instance , where my spouse is not keen with me to be friends with this particular guy. Even after my rationalisation, he is still not keen. For that , I respect his wishes and have not continued with the friendship like before. It is a pity, because onceupon a time, we were very close friends and help each other a lot!..In this case, however...I see it also as the 'friend' not being a true friend as he was not very interested to be friends at some point in time in the past...SO....why bother! We cant have it all right?!

On the issue of dodgy men friends...yes definitely kene jaga-jaga...And men construing friendship and a listening ear as a come on or and invitation, is pretty pathethic!..So for men like that....it would better to just be 'kenalan'.

Having said all that, we hear people having affairs with their friends, workmates , bosses and so on...SO...it can start with just an innocent friendship. Maybe talking about relationship or marriage problems is a No-No!
And yes, tell your partner !...be open and dont try to go beyond the line!

About the BALI.....to be honest...we wre just saying we may want to go since...we havent been there before and tukar angin instead of going to matsalleh country for holiday. People keep saying that its a nice place..with an exception of a few...a friend and a cousin said...that they actually think that we wont enjoy the place...so..in this situation...cari tempat lain la dulu!!...still loads of places in the world to go!!

in conclusion, good girl friends are still better friends to have...cos here is no limitation and barrier and they can understand better being of the same sex. So gals, you are still 'the one'

Later!